*Note: In this podcast I mention a social psychologist whom I couldn’t remember. I realized that I was actually thinking of the work of Carol Dweck, but it wasn’t actually her research I was referring to. Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about a certain topic in parenting. And the topic revolves around how often […]

In my time on staff at the Hideaway Experience doing marriage intensives, my co-therapists and I had a few rules that we would often write out for the 4 couples on the their first day of intensive work. We found that having some guiding principles (rules) made the process more safe for everyone involved. And […]

In episode 64 (the previous episode) I shared about my more recent, and personal struggle with anger. In that episode I also talk a bit about it’s roots being in depression. I have talked before about the link between depression and anger in some of my writings like What it Means to be a Man. […]

Over the course of the last 3 months I have really been wrestling with the question of “how good of a listener am I?” I’ve always thought I was a good listener…I mean, my vocation is essentially to listen to people all day. But I’m sure my clients….and my wife, would tell you that I’m […]

I have told this story countless times in person, on the podcast, and in my blog…so I will try and keep it brief. But about 6 years ago I had an experience that forever changed my life. I had just returned from sitting in on and observing a marriage intensive at The Hideaway Experience in […]

This last weekend I had one of the greatest experiences I have ever had…and that was being able to co-lead a marriage workshop with my wife Heather. Over the last 10 years I have had the opportunity to lead a lot of marriage retreats, conferences, workshops, give talks, etc…but this was the first time I […]

As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Plano, Texas, I get the opportunity to work with a lot of families. And in working with a lot of families I get the chance to see the varying parenting styles that different parents use. So in this episode I want to focus on four different parenting […]

This last week I have spent some time talking to you about the Pain Cycle and Peace Cycle in Terry Hargrave’s Restoration Therapy model. I love the Pain and Peace Cycle because it has transformed my life. It’s transformed me as an individual, as well as my marriage, my relationships, vocation and more. But how […]

As I have mentioned in the previous podcast blog posts, I am spending time talking about the Pain and Peace Cycle, and the 4 steps to practice it in your life. These tools are found in the work of Marriage and Family therapist pioneer Terry Hargrave and his Restoration Therapy model. As I talk about […]

This week I am spending time talking about the Pain and Peace Cycle found in the work of Terry Hargrave and his Restoration Therapy model. As I talk about previous episodes, the Pain Cycle and the Peace Cycle have transformed my life, marriage, relationships, friendships, and work. It too can transform you, your relationships, your […]

In the previous podcast episode I talked about just how life transforming the Pain and Peace Cycle work have been to my life both personally and relationally. Ever since I learned these tools when I went on staff at The Hideaway Experience in 2010 I have continued to use them in all the work I […]

One of the tools that has changed my life in such an amazing way…that at times it’s really hard to explain…is learning the Pain and Peace Cycle in the work of Terry Hargrave in his Restoration Therapy model. In fact, in Episode 21 of this podcast I talked about how it can change your life, […]

This last week my wife and I spent two days training with Sharon Hargrave in her Marriage Strong curriculum. There were several reasons why we wanted to attend the training: 1) We know how much working through our Pain and Peace Cycle has transformed our own marriage; 2) We have a desire to lead these […]

I have been looking forward to having Dr. Cameron Jorgenson on my podcast for a long time. Dr. Jorgenson is one of the smartest and most thoughtful people that I know, and so it was with great anticipation that I had him on this week’s episode. But first a little backstory. I first met Dr. […]