Most men are ready to talk. They just need the space to do it.

Therapy for Men in

Frisco, TX

Rhett Smith, therapist for men in Frisco, TX

"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation."

Henry David Thoreau | Walden

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Does this sound familiar?

  • On paper, things look good. Inside, something feels empty.

  • You cope by staying busy, working harder, or numbing out.

  • Anger or irritability comes easier than anything else.

  • Your partner says you shut down or aren't really there.

  • You feel pulled between providing and being present, and you're not sure you're doing either well.

  • You don't have anyone you can really talk to.

  • You know something's off, but you don't have words for it.

None of that means something is wrong with you. It means the way you learned to cope has stopped working. That's a good time to do something different.

Most men were told, directly or indirectly, that opening up is weakness. So we find other ways to cope. We stuff our feelings, numb out, or pour everything into achieving and performing. That performance pulls us away from an honest relationship with ourselves and with the people we love. It works, until it doesn't.

We also live in a confusing moment for men. Most of us were raised to be defined by our ability to provide. Now the expectations have changed: be more emotionally present, more engaged at home, more open in relationships. Men are trying to sort out what it means to be a man while the answer keeps getting redefined. That's real, important work, and I take it seriously.

Through the lens of Restoration Therapy, the coping makes sense. When our need for love (being known and valued) or trust (feeling safe) has been wounded, we protect ourselves. For many men, achievement becomes the protection. But as my mentor Terry Hargrave says, a performance-based identity is no identity at all.

How I understand men’s struggles

I go deep with men to find the roots of their patterns and pain. I also give them practical tools to act on. Insight without practice is just information.

  1. Put words to it. Most men have never had language for what they feel and how they cope. Finding it is often the first real shift. Many men tell me they feel understood for the first time.

  2. Get to the roots. We look at where your patterns come from and what they've been protecting you from.

  3. Build practical tools. You leave sessions with something concrete to work on, not just something to think about.

  4. Train, don't just try. Trail running taught me that growth comes through consistent, intentional practice. Change works the same way: small reps, repeated, until you're capable of things that once felt impossible.

  5. Bring it home. The goal is showing up differently with the people who matter most: your partner, your kids, your friends, your team.

If your relationship is feeling the strain, see Couples and Relationships. If stress and worry are running the show, see Anxiety Therapy. If you lead others, see Executive Coaching.

How we work together

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This work is close to my heart, close enough that I wrote a book about it.

  • Author, What It Means to Be a Man (Moody, 2013)

  • Nearly 30 years of pastoral, clinical, and coaching work, much of it with men in seasons of transition and pressure

  • Board Certified Executive Coach, working with leaders at organizations like Hilton, Marriott, and Chick-fil-A, where the same patterns show up in the boardroom

  • Certified in Restoration Therapy (Levels I and II) and trained in EMDR

I'm also a husband, a dad, and an ultrarunner. The night before my first 50-mile race, my family gave me a plate that read "I can do hard things." I believe that's true for the men who walk into my office, too.

My work with men

What colleagues say

I knew that I was not healthy emotionally but I had no idea where to start. Years ago I started talking to Rhett and his work with me was the very thing I needed to begin living a more emotionally healthy life. Rhett is also continually working on his own health and is able to listen and share compassionately and with great insight from his own journey.

Broc Jahnke, Lead Care & Support Pastor at Hope Fellowship

FAQ’s

  • You'll fill out a short intake form beforehand. In the first session, my goal is to understand what's bringing you in and what you're hoping for. I'll help you put language to what you're feeling and how you cope, and you'll leave with clear next steps and something concrete to work on.

  • We'll go deep, but this isn't open-ended venting. You'll get practical tools and things to practice between sessions.

  • Often, yes. Plenty of men start because someone else asked. What matters is that you're willing to show up. Most men know within the first session whether it's a good fit.

  • It depends on what you're working on. Some men need a handful of sessions; others work through something significant over six months to a year. I generally suggest committing to 6 to 12 sessions to start.

  • Individual sessions are $225 for 55 minutes. I'm an out-of-network provider and can give you a superbill to submit for possible reimbursement. See the FAQ page for details.

  • IteYes. I see clients in person in Frisco, TX, and via telehealth anywhere in Texas or Colorado, where I'm licensed. And I provide men’s coaching across the globe.

Reaching out is often the hardest part. I see men in person in Frisco, TX, near Plano, McKinney, Prosper, The Colony, and Little Elm, and via telehealth anywhere in Texas or Colorado. Book directly, or reach out for a free 15-minute consultation first.

5300 Town and Country Blvd., Suite 240, Frisco, TX 75034 Call or text: 469-304-9022 Email: rhett@rhettsmith.com

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