“Our relationship lives in the space between us – it doesn’t live in me or in you or even in the dialogue between the two us – it lives in the space we live together and that space is sacred space.” –Martin Buber   Such a beautiful quote by the Jewish philosopher Martin Buber, who […]

Thanks to everyone who submitted a comment on the blog entry this week to win the new Shane and Shane album. There were so many good comments and I’m hoping to comment on all of them over the next few days. But after the random drawing of commenter’s names we came up with five people […]

Your daughter needs God. And she wants you to be the one to show her who He is, what He is like, and what He thinks about her. She wants to believe that there is more to life than what she sees with her eyes and hears with her ears. She wants to know that […]

[image by The Welsh Poppy] Differentiation is a natural process in committed relationships that involves developing more of a self while growing closer to your partner. Men often sacrifice their relationship to hold onto their sense of self. Women often sacrifice their sense of self to stabilize their relationship. Differentiation is about having it both […]

If you find me talking about something a lot then that means I’m a huge believer in it. And you would be hard pressed to find me talking more about something this last year than The Hideaway Marriage Experience and 5 Days to a New Marriage. I blogged about my first experience at The Hideaway […]

“Many years ago I was driven to the conclusion that the two major causes of most emotional problems among Christians are these: the failure to understand, receive, and live out God’s unconditional grace and forgiveness; and the failure to give out that unconditional love, forgiveness, and grace to other people….We read, we hear, we believe […]

Here’s a list of three pretty distinct articles that I wrote or contributed to in the last month. Check them out and let me know what you think. Transform Your Marriage at the Start Marriage Right blog. Katy Perry’s Comments Prompt the Question: How Strict Is Too Strict? at the Christian Post website. Avoiding Grace […]

I was pretty much speechless when I saw this news story this morning.  And as the father of a little girl I was saddened to think about all the pressure by marketers that will be aimed at her to look a certain way. That’s why we have an important job as parents.  Don’t let culture […]

What’s One Thing You Wish You Understood Better Before You Were Married? Okay, so that’s the question…any thoughts?

“Why do we let them dress like that?” All of which brings me to a question: Why do so many of us not only permit our teenage daughters to dress like this—like prostitutes, if we’re being honest with ourselves—but pay for them to do it with our AmEx cards? I posed this question to a […]

This comes from Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy

David Schnarch’s Definition of Love

Yesterday Dave Ramsey had author Dr. Meg Meeker on his radio program talking about her new book The 10 Habits of Happy Mothers: Reclaiming our Passion, Purpose, and Sanity. It was a phenomenal interview with her on the ways that mother’s can..as she writes about…“reclaiming passion, purpose, and sanity.” Her book Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: […]

That is the question that Corey Allan addresses in his blog post, “What do you fear most in your marriage?” Failing to acknowledge a possibility does not make it go away. Inherent in every relationship is the ending of it. But when you honestly address the fact that relationships involve risk, you’ll likely find you […]

Rainer Maria Rilke on Marriage: “The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging […]

I have been blown away in the last six months by the transforming power of marriage therapy in an intensive setting. Especially in a group setting. I wrote at length about The Hideaway Experience on my blog back in November, The Hideaway Marriage Intensive: 4 Days, 4 Couples, 2 Therapists, and Transformed Marriages. Couples achieve […]

I’m always looking for good marriage books to read and learn from. And one of the ways that I know it is a great marriage book is that it has a profound transforming affect on my own marital relationship. Such is the case with Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by […]