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I started my journey of blogging in 2003 — mostly to capture what I called “transitioning life’s journey”.
In 2023 I took a 3 year break from blogging, but have decided to return to it. I hope you enjoy.
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Rhett Smith Podcast 3: Navigating Transitions, Finding Your Passion, and Letting, Go — with Pastor, Chaplain and Spiritual Director, Dr. Timothy Smith (aka my dad)
My dad is an amazing guy. Besides being my father he has taken on many roles over the course of his life such as church planter, pastor, professor, prison chaplain, hospice chaplain, writer, teacher, speaker, spiritual director, radio show host…and co-founder of Water from Rock which is a non-profit ministry based in Scottsdale, AZ, and […]
Rhett Smith Podcast 2: Transform Your Health, Fitness and Leadership — with Payan X Founder, Marc Payan
What can I say about Marc Payan? He is someone who is hard to sum up in just a few words. I first came across Marc in the online marriage and relationship space. Though we first met online I began to occasionally see Marc in person and I have really been inspired by him. Marc […]
Rhett Smith Podcast 1: Exploring the Intersection of Self-Care and Relationships
I have been dreaming and thinking about starting a podcast for about two years, but just never got around to it. As much as I wanted to start it, life just got in the way. Work has been busy in my private practice, as well as speaking and writing. And then there is family life […]
Scary Close: My 4 Part Video Book Review of Donald Miller’s New Book
Back in the beginning of December, my friend Tyler Davis Jones mailed me a copy of Donald Miller’s new book Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy. Tyler picked it up at the Storyline Conference he attended. I was so thankful to get this great gift from him, and I plowed through the […]
A Gift Idea on How to Intentionally Create Presence in Your Marriage
One of the things that I became really convicted about in 2014 was my lack of being present. Present to my own life. Present to friends. Present to my kids. Present to my wife. And by present, I mean emotionally engaged and available to people in my life. Instead I found myself distracted by all […]
Opening a Second Office Location in Frisco!!!
Starting Monday, November 10, I will be practicing in both Plano and Frisco. Over the last several years my practice has experienced incredible growth, especially from people coming down to Plano from Frisco, Prosper, McKinney and Allen. In order to better accommodate the growth I thought it was necessary to open up a second location. […]
Two Technology Tips That Will Transform Your Relationships
I love technology. Cue Napoleon Dynamite. Technology has helped me connect to some amazing people and transformed a lot of the way that I work, write, speak, etc. But technology has also come at a cost. Many times it has left me feeling more stressed out and anxious. And it has often…unfortunately, been a hindrance […]
Redefining Masculinity Around Relationships
Last month I wrote a blog and shot a video called Two Words You Should Never Tell a Boy. The two words I was referring to are “stop crying.” It’s a message that is devastating to boys and leads to lots of other problems for them in the future. Problems that I see everyday in […]
How to Build a Thriving Therapy Practice: To Take, or Not to Take Insurance?
Do you take insurance? This is one of the questions I get most often. And I hear it from both potential clients and therapists in the field. The simple answer is that I do not take insurance. I have never taken insurance…and at this point in my practice I have no plans to take insurance. […]
‘Oneness’: When Two Become Three
I’ve been thinking a lot about marriage these last few weeks for several reasons. Whether it is with the couples I work with, or my own personal marriage…I have come to realize that we just can’t do marriage on our own. We can throw all the tools at it we want, but at the end […]
Men: Are You a Relational Hero?
“Each man is a bridge, spanning in his lifetime all of the images and traditions about masculinity inherited from past generations and bestowing–or inflicting–his own retelling of the tale on those who ensue. Unresolved depression often passes from father to son, despite the father’s best intentions, like a toxic, unacknowledged patrimony. Conversely, when a man […]
Difference Between Studying and Reading the Bible
When I work with people in therapy we often talk about the importance of being physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually healthy. And one of the primary ways that many people who foster their spiritual growth is through their participation in the Bible. That may be through reading, memorization, study, teaching, preaching…trying to live out what […]
Do You and Your Spouse Need a Marriage Intensive?
I wish couples would go to counseling on a regular basis as a part of their commitment to being intentional in their marriage. I wish couples would go when their marriage was in a good spot, so that they can take it to an even greater spot. But the reality is, in my professional opinion, […]
Leadership and Relationships: Creating Safety
“Weak leaders are the ones who only extend the benefits of the Circle of Safety to their fellow senior executives and a chosen few others. They look out for each other, but they do not offer the same considerations to those outside their ‘inner circle.’ Without the protection of our leaders, everyone outside the inner […]
Exclusion as a Violation of the Self
Last week I came across this article that stated, being ignored is worse than being bullied. I had to stop and think about that statement for a second. Nevermind the article and the research, I wanted to just think about that statement, especially since we hear so much about bullying in the media these days. […]
“Ruthlessly Eliminate Hurry”
Not long after moving to Chicago, I called a wise friend to ask for some spiritual direction. I described the pace of life in my current ministry. The church where I serve tends to move at a fast clip. I also told him about our rhythms of family life: we are in the van-driving, soccer-league, […]
Runnning as a Meditative and Prayerful Practice
In yesterday’s post Running as an Antidote for Anxiety and Depression, I told you about why I love running and how it has transformed my life. One aspect that I didn’t tell you about is how running not only helps with my anxiety and depression, but it’s a great activity for my prayer life. I […]
Running as an Antidote for Anxiety and Depression
I love running! It has completely changed my life. I have loved running since I was a little kid. I loved running and playing with friends. I loved field day and running the sprints and the longer races. I ran track in high school. But somewhere along the way running became a bit of drudgery. […]
“What’s the Difference Between Anxiety and Worry?”
“What’s the difference between anxiety and worry?” That was the question posed to me the other day. It’s such a great question, and honestly, I don’t know if anyone has ever asked me that question before, which is sort of surprising in light of all the talk on worry and anxiety these days. Just go […]
How to Build a Thriving Therapy Practice: Identifying Your Ideal Client
When I was fresh out of graduate school I was so eager to get my hours, gain experience, and actually make some money for a change that I was willing to work with anyone. Many of you can probably relate to that. And in those first few years of working on my hours I worked […]