Tags archives: men

  • Redefining Masculinity Around Relationships

  • Last month I wrote a blog and shot a video called Two Words You Should Never Tell a Boy. The two words I was referring to are "stop crying." It's a message that is devastating to boys and leads to lots of other problems for them in the future. Problems that I see everyday in my counseling office with the men that I work with. I agree with Terence Real in that we need more relational heroes in [...]
  • Men: Are You a Relational Hero?

  • "Each man is a bridge, spanning in his lifetime all of the images and traditions about masculinity inherited from past generations and bestowing--or inflicting--his own retelling of the tale on those who ensue. Unresolved depression often passes from father to son, despite the father's best intentions, like a toxic, unacknowledged patrimony. Conversely, when a man transforms the internalized disco[...]
  • Two Words You Should Never Tell a Boy.....

  • "If you cry again I am going to take you back home!" That is what I told my almost 4 year old son on Wednesday night around 8:00pm. We were riding bikes and he was in that overtired state where he could hardly contain his emotions. He was crying. He was whining at his sister. It had been a long day at work for me. I wasn't handling my emotions very well either. And actually, as the[...]
  • Be the 'Life-Giving' Man That You and Others Deserve

  • Are you a 'life-giving' man? That is a question that I am often asked. It's a term that I began to talk about in my last book, What it Means to be a Man. But I've begun to explore it more fully in the last 6 months and it is the focus of my online program for men. I've learned a lot, and the 6 men who just finished my course taught me a lot. If you are interested in becoming a 'life-givi[...]
  • No Weak Men Allowed.....

  • No Weak Men Allowed....I think that is the message that men hear from the time they are little boys all the way through the rest of their lives. I know I have heard that message. I know the men I work with have heard that message. It may come from parents, grandparents, coaches, teachers, friend's parents, pastors...culture. The message is sometimes delivered intentionally in order to wou[...]
  • The Imminent Threat to a Pastor's Marriage

  • About 8 years ago I was sitting in a marriage and family therapy class at Fuller Theological Seminary when the professor made an off the cuff remark about the marital satisfaction of a pastor and their spouse. The professor's experience was that pastors (in this case men) often rank their marriages as being more satisfactory than their spouse does. I have thought about that comment a lot ove[...]
  • I'm Looking for Some Life-Giving Men!!! (Are You One of Them?)

  • Next Tuesday at 1pm Central(11amPST/2pmEST) I am very excited to be bringing you my webinar, 3 Simple Steps That Transform a Man's Potential to Live a Connected and Thriving Life!!!. I have been working with men for a very long time in all kinds of settings -- ministry, community mental health agencies, private practice. And what I most often hear men telling me, and what I see, are men th[...]